Every day seems like a race against the clock.
You wake up too early and once your feet hit the floor, it seems like you’re running.
I’m not a morning person, so when we do leave the house, I usually look like Charlize Theron….in Monster.
While other moms take the time to do their hair, makeup and attempt to look presentable, (even just to run errands and go to doctors appointments), I am usually loading the dishwasher and washing bottles because I was too tired to do it after dinner the night before and let’s face it, last night was a shit show of baths, crying, juggling diapers and then we all flopped into our respective beds or cribs one by one.
I’m not great at time management, so even if I have a couple hours to prepare for our exit, I seem to run around the house searching for keys, phone and stuffing our oversized diaper bag with unnecessary portions of formula and snacks until the very last second. And we’re still late.
So it’s of no surprise that by the end of the day I’m using borrowed time to return emails, reply to clients and set up appointments.
More often than not, these last minute responses are done in the dark using one hand to type and the other to balance a bottle and baby in the other.
I try to play catch up during the quiet moments.
But tonight, I just rocked her.
I purposefully left my phone behind so that when the moment came that I remembered to finally answer that text, I couldn’t.
I just fed my baby girl.
I admired her.
Her little chubby hand was holding one side of the bottle while I held the other.
She has little dimples where her knuckles will one day be, and then I started to wonder at what point my sons little finger dimples turned into knuckles.
I watched her drink her Bubba with her eyes closed. She was so peaceful and comfortable.
I could tell she felt safe and warm in my arms as her little head rested in between my elbow and chest.
Her little belly stuck out just a bit and her knees bent, curling into me.
I stroked her silky soft hair with its little cowlick in front (just like her brother and daddy have) and wondered if it would turn more blonde like mine as a baby or dark like my husband’s was (before he started shaving it all off).
If I weren’t such an anxious person, I swear I could’ve slept right there in that rocking chair with her all night long (or until she woke up again at 12:00 or 3:00, depending on her mood).
Those 20 minutes were priceless and they don’t last forever. My toddler requests his daddy at nighttime now, which leaves me free to not load the dishwasher and also feels a little like getting punched in the gut.
I cherish any time to rock my babies, especially when all else is quiet and I can put the recurring list of worries in my mind on hold for a moment.
I’ll have to remember to forget my phone in the living room again tomorrow.